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While volunteering at the library this week, I was graciously allowed to move from reading the children’s book shelves on my very pregnant knees to the adult section, where I can stand. Specifically in cookbooks, which are always in disarray no matter how many volunteers read the shelves. The Emmaus Library has an enormous amount of books about food, so it took me the entire hour and a half to read them, too. As usually happens when I read shelves, I found about twenty books I wanted to read. I restrained myself and only took five. The Supper of the Lamb: A Culinary Reflection by Robert Farrar Capon was one of them. I am not very far in and don’t want to put it down. It’s very much has the same feel as Down the Garden Path did… just a guy rambling about food. But it is funny and engaging. Really a joy to read.  There are even a few recipes. Here’s a few paragraphs from the opening chapter to give you an idea what I’m talking about:

…I am an amateur. If that strikes you as disappointing, consider how much in error you are, and how the error is entirely of your own devising. At its root lies an objection to cookbooks written by non-professionals (an objection, by the way, which I consider perfectly valid, and congratulate you upon.) It does not, however, apply here. Amateur and nonprofessional are not synonyms. The world may or may not need another cookbook, but it needs all the lovers-amateurs-it can get. It is a gorgeous old place, full of clownish graces and beautiful drolleries, and it has enough textures, tastes, and smells to keep us intrigued for more time than we have. Unfortunately, however, our response to its loveliness is not always delight: It is, far more often than it should be, boredom. And that is not only odd, it is tragic; for boredom is not neutral-it is the fertilizing principle of unloveliness.

In such a situation, the amateur-the lover, the man who thinks heedlessness a sin and boredom a heresy-is just the man you need. More than that, whether you think you need him or not, he is a man who is bound, by his love, to speak. If he loves Wisdom or the Arts, so much the better for him and for all of us. But if he loves only the way meat browns or onions peel, if he delights simply in the curds of his cheese or the color of his wine, he is, by every one of those enthusiasms, commanded to speak. A silent lover is one who doesn’t know his job.

Therefore, the man who said “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” was on the right track, even if he seemed a bit weak on the objectivity of beauty. He may well have been a solipsist who doubted the reality of everything outside himself, or one of those skeptics who thinks that no valid judgments are possible-that no knife can in reality be pronounced sharp, nor any custard done to perfection. It doesn’t matter. Like Caiaphas, he spoke better than he knew. The real world which he doubts is indeed the mother of loveliness, the womb and matrix in which it is conceived and nurtured; but the loving eye which he celebrates is the father of it. The graces of the world are the looks of a woman in love; without the woman they could not be there at all; but without her love, they would not quicken into loveliness.

There, then, is the role of the amateur: to look the world back to grace. There, too, is the necessity of this work: His tribe must be in short supply; his job has gone begging. The world looks as if it has been left in the custody of a pack of trolls. Indeed, the whole distinction between art and trash, between food and garbage, depends on the presence or absence of the loving eye. Turn a statue over to a boor, and his boredom will break it to bits-witness the ruined monuments of antiquity. On the other hand, turn a shack over to a lover; for all its poverty, its lights and shadows warm a little, and its numbed surfaces prickle with feeling.

Or, conclusively, peel an orange. Do it lovingly-in perfect quarters like little boats, or in staggered exfoliations like a flat map of the round world, or in one long spiral, as my grandfather used to do. Nothing is more likely to become garbage than orange rind; but for as long as anyone looks at it in delight, it stands a million triumphant miles from the trash heap.

That, you know, is why the world exists at all. It remains outside the cosmic garbage can of nothingness, not because it is such a solemn necessity that nobody can get rid of it, but because it is the orange peel hung on God’s chandelier, the wishbone in His kitchen closet. He likes it; therefore, it stays. The whole marvelous collection of stones, skins, feathers, and string exists because at least one lover has never quite taken His eye off it, because the Dominus vivificans has his delight with the sons of men.

But enough. The amateur is vindicated…

Bemused

Man is there a lot of ruckus going on over at my husband’s blog today! (I liked his post, but I’m very happy it’s not me who has to filter all the comments!)

I am sooooo glad I’m off Facebook.  I didn’t even know about this video until he wrote his post.  I’m probably missing tons of awesomeness, but I’ll gladly pass if it means rarely being subjected to all the painful things that get posted.  I dropped Google + this week as well.   But I think I’ll keep my blog.  Killing chickens and rambling about rearranging my furniture doesn’t seem to stirring up any unwanted controversy.

 

{phfr} – bunk beds!

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For the parish’s annual Ladies Luncheon, this year Sweet Pea and I sported matching chef hats.  She’s just started to get helpful in the kitchen and does some of my vegetable prep work for me (peeling garlic, potatoes, and carrots, juicing lemons, that sort of thing) so I thought it would be cute to have her hat say “Sous Chef.”  (Plus, then the next kid can wear it when she outgrows it.)  She’s getting to be such a lovely young lady.  Mine said “Mama Chef” because I embroidered it the day before the luncheon and I was all out of imagination.

Update: It occurs to me to mention that there is always a prettiest/funniest/most creative hat contest at our ladies luncheon.  I’m not that out of touch with fashion.  Also, Sweet Pea won again!  She was pretty excited about it.

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Jiddo made bunk beds for the kids to my specifications!  New Boy is coming in May, so Mishmish needed to get kicked out of the nursery and learn to sleep in a real bed.  Only a couple nights of trouble, and now he SLEEPS THROUGH THE NIGHT.  Oh. My. Goodness.  Can I tell you how much I desperately needed for him to start doing this???  You are looking at one happy mama.   Jiddo also made shelves to go along the bunk beds (which will attach on the left side there and have two shelves open bunkside for each bed so the kids can have their own personal storage space), but they didn’t fit in the SUV with everything else.  They’ll come later and add some much needed book shelf space for the ever-expanding collection of children’s books we have.  Not in my original design request, but so awesome, is the fact that the entire bookshelf was built to be able to be used as a stand-alone piece of furniture if at some point in the future we didn’t want the shelves near the bed.  My dad is amazing like that.

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Contained in this stock pot is a huge slab of partially rendered suet.  My ambitious friend and I are planning to tackle Soap Making, and we are going to use tallow because we happen to have a nearly free (and probably nearly unlimited for our scale) source of suet.  I’ve rendered lard before from pork fatback, so I figured this would be about the same level of smell (lard making is pretty mild in that regard).  Boy was I wrong.  I managed to stick out the first batch because it was just warm enough to tolerate the window being open in the kitchen.  This second batch though… I’m seriously considering taking it outside to dispose of it.  Just lifting the lid for a second sends this horrendous stench through the entire main living space.  Note to self:  there was an excellent reason women used to make soap outside in warm weather, and it wasn’t just because it was messy.  Phew!

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Fr. A was pretty sure one of his platys was in a family way yesterday, and this morning sure enough we had a small fry swimming in there.  Don’t see it?   Neither do I.  Yes sir, learning all about the dark realities of sea life around here.  I think my butchering project has started rubbing off on Sweet Pea.  She didn’t even bat an eyelid when I told her.  The only thing she said was, “Good thing we weren’t going to eat him for dinner!”

round button chicken

I am fortunate that I married a man who knows the value of a name.  For me, to name a child is to present them with a challenge:  a life lived in honor of one’s namesake.  Sometimes that is a Jiddo, but we also feel it is important for them to have a connection to a saint… or rather saints as the case may be. We found out we’re expecting another boy, so we have chosen St. Raphael of Brooklyn and St. Joseph of Damascus as his patrons.

(You can read about the life and martyrdom of St. Joseph here.

You can also read about the life of St. Raphael of Brooklyn here.)

Look at that nose!  Maybe this will be my little Arab-looking child?  I know there are people who enjoy the surprise of waiting to find out until the very end, but I find great comfort in already knowing whose prayers to ask on behalf of my child.  As soon as we heard the stories of these two saints and their connection, we have felt particularly drawn to them.

So.  I need now I need to think of what to call this little guy on my blog.  I’m can’t go on calling him Sue now that I know.   Ideas?

Intermission

I can’t remember if I’ve posted this here before or not, but I came across it again today. There’s a lot of talk about the brokenness of abortion from the baby’s perspective… but I think there is probably just as much for the mother and father who make this kind of decision. This song does a good job of laying out those regrets.

Verse 1:
Please accept my apologies, wonder what would have been
Would you’ve been a little angel or an angel of sin?
Tom-boy running around, hanging with all the guys.
Or a little tough boy with beautiful brown eyes?
I payed for the murder before they determined the sex
Choosing our life over your life meant your death
And you never got’a chance to even open your eyes
Sometimes I wonder as a foetus if you faught for your life?
Would you have been a little genius in love with math?
Would you have played in your school clothes and made me mad?
Would you have been a little rapper like your papa da Piper?
Would you have made me quit smokin’ by finding one of my lighters?
I wonder about your skintone and shape of your nose?
And the way you would have laughed and talked fast or slow?
Think about it every year, so I picked up a pen
Happy birthday, love you whoever you woulda been
Happy birthday…

Chorus:
what I thought was a dream (make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed (happy birthday)
What I thought was a dream (make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed

I made a mistake!

Verse 2:
I’ve got a millon excuses to why you died
Bet the people got their own reasons for homicide
Who’s to say it woulda worked, and who’s to say it wouldn’t have?
I was young and strugglin’ but old enough to be your dad
The fear of being my father has never disappeared
Pondering frequently while I’m sippin’ on my beer
My vision of a family was artificial and fake
So when it came time to create I made a mistake
Now you’ve got a little brother maybe he’s really you?
Maybe you really forgave us knowin’ we was confused?
Maybe everytime that he smiles it’s you proudly knowin’ that your father’s doin’ the right thing now?
I never tell a woman what to do with her body
But if she don’t love children then we can’t party
Think about it every year, so I picked up a pen
Happy birthday, love you whoever you woulda been
Happy birthday…

Chorus:
What I thought was a dream (make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed (happy birthday)
What I thought was a dream (yeah, make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed

I made a mistake!

And from the heavens to the womb to the heavens again
From the endin’ to the endin’, never got to begin
Maybe one day we could meet face to face?
In a place without time and space
Happy birthday…

From the heavens to the womb to the heavens again
From the endin’ to the endin’, never got to begin
Maybe one day we could meet face to face?
In a place without time and space

Happy birthday…

Chorus:
What I thought was a dream (make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed (happy birthday)
What I thought was a dream (make a wish)
Was as real as it seemed

I made a mistake…!

Merry Christmas!

Popping in just to say Merry Christmas! Christ is born! Glorify Him!

And to tell you to head here to see my guest post over at 50 First Crafts. (It’s the first of four separate posts.)

I was excited to be able to contribute a project to my friend’s awesome blog! Thanks Amber! Your blog has really inspired me to try new things this year!

A penguin softie I helped Sweet Pea make. I cut out the flannel and she put it together. He doesn't have eyes because I don't know how to explain French knots to my daughter when I can barely make them myself! Maybe we should just call him Samson. He doesn't have any hair. Anyhow, goals 1 and 4 at the same time!

This was a busy summer.  I made a new friend this year and we are both the kind of people who get pretty ambitious and crazy ideas for projects.  Prior to meeting her, I’d get those ideas and then find myself lacking zone defense for the kids and/or manpower for the project.  (My husband’s calling doesn’t lend itself to frequent and impulsive drafting of him for  my projects, though he’s great for helping the kids stay happy.)  Now I not only had a place my kids could run around in relative safety at, but I had a project buddy.  We killed poultry, picked berries, canned things, processed pumpkin seeds, planted gardens.

Suddenly, I had a problem though:  I was so busy doing stuff that I didn’t have time to do Other Stuff.  Basically, I had a lot of things I wanted to accomplish and it was getting hard to prioritize my time so I could do as many of them as possible and still do them well.

Everyone tells you in organization books to make yourself a mission statement and include some goals in there.  I don’t go in for most of that frugalump because I spent time in retail.  Working in retail will make you roll your eyes at almost anything to do with goal oriented ‘self improvement.’ Nonetheless, I steeled myself for such silliness and sat down and made a list.  (I skipped the mission statement.  I just can’t go there.)

Things I want to do:

  1. Spend more one on one time with Sweet Pea, specifically with having in mind the need to establish a daily rhythm in this regard so we can begin kindergarten next year.
  2. Maintain the high standard of cleanliness and order of the home such that my Taita could visit me unannounced and I would not be ashamed.
  3. Read more books.  Specifically, spend more time keeping current with the advancesin the physical sciences and advanced mathematics; work towards a master level understanding of the local flora; and continue reading about various theories of early childhood education in reference especially to education in the home.
  4. Find time to tackle more handicrafts like sewing and embroidery.

I had a couple more, but I decided it was better to keep the list short.  Then I tracked my schedule for two weeks.  I logged my internet time vs. my household maintenance time vs. my relaxation time vs. sleep time vs. one on one with the kids time.  I was pretty shocked to find that I was actually spending more time everyday on the internet than I was SLEEPING.  (Mishmish was still waking up 5-6 times a night, but still.)  Even knowing that… I didn’t want to give it up! So I looked at other places I could cut first.

My household maintenance routine time is actually pretty minimal and efficient considering how much I accomplish.  I’ve gotten rid of a lot of extra stuff so there’s just not that much to actually clean.  (And I read a bunch of Don Aslett books a couple years ago and took his advice.  He wasn’t kidding when he claimed he’d cut your housework by 75%.)  Plus skimping on this time would be counterproductive to accomplishing goal #2.

Sleep time was out.  I wasn’t getting enough as it was.

Clearly, I wasn’t satisfied with my one on one time with Sweet Pea as it was.  Not going find any savings there.

Relaxation time?  That’s my hour and a half volunteering at the library each week.  Not giving that up.  Plus if I did give it up, I’d just spend three times that amount of time trying to check books out of the library with Mishmish in tow.

I had to face it:  I needed to cut down my internet time.  It just wasn’t working for me.  I took a closer look at my internet time and realized most of it came down to two activities: my Google Reader feed and Facebook.  I deleted a huge number of blogs and feeds and kept it down to just the ones I actually really loved on a consistent basis.  Then I deleted my Facebook account.  I didn’t just deactivate it… would have been too easy to go back.  I got rid of the whole thing.

Suddenly, I had a whole TWO HOURS every night, plus some time during Mishmish’s nap.  I also noticed that I wasn’t as tempted to check my phone throughout the day or during meals for updates.  I realize now that I had been shortchanging the people in my family in order to keep up with all those people on Facebook.  (Who I do miss!  But priorities!)  I was essentially saying every time I checked my phone while my kids were around, “This here is more important than you.  What you have to say is not as interesting as this phone.  I value my interactions with acquaintances and strangers and their assorted links more than I value my interactions with my own children.”   It just wasn’t right.  It was selfish.  I made the conscious decision to cut the distraction out cold turkey so I could begin creating new habits with my time.

I noticed almost immediately that Sweet Pea’s behavior began improving slowly. (She still has a long way to go… but then, so do I.)  So much of what we had been struggling with in her had actually been the four year old manifestation of her frustration with me not giving her my full presence.  I also noticed that I started meeting some of my goals!  I read more books, I’ve been making more things, Sweet Pea and I have been consistently reading together more.  The rough first trimester I had made #2 not quite where I’d want to be, but that’s because of a season of my life, not because of me frittering away my time checking the internet.

Just some musings.

A Simple Woman’s Daybook… because I feel like I should post something around here.
Outside my window…

Rain.  Probably turn to snow sometime tonight.

I am thinking…

a lot lately about how with a family so scattered across the earth we can still teach our children the value of place and home.  One idea I had is to really learn about our native flora and fauna.  I have loved gardening for years, but I am making a more organized effort to study plant biology, proper botanical nomenclature, and historical human uses of plants.

I am thankful…

For the health of my family and for the passing of the morning sickness and much of the exhaustion.  Things are returning to normal around here.

From the learning rooms…

The story of Christ’s Nativity.  Once in a while we discover we haven’t told a major story to Sweet Pea.  Like, say, how Jesus was born!  Explaining Joseph’s role is proving very confusing.  On days when we remember, we do our Advent Calendar readings.  On evenings when even that is too much, we just remove a star before we pray.  I’m learning to not be a perfectionist about all things little people.

In the kitchen…

Mjadera.  Burbara.  Warm and filling Arab fare.

I am creating…

I made this:

I am completely aware I’m not going to win any crafty mom awards for it, but I think it will turn out pretty nice.  I glued paper over the outside, and then raided my daughter’s collage box for a few pretty greeting card pictures.  Then I packing taped up the edges and Modge Podged everything.  It’s drying in the basement.  A couple more coats, and hopefully it will look presentable.  What is it?  It’s a little closet for my daughter’s doll clothes.  I’m going to wrap it: “To Juliana (her doll’s name) from Taita”  LOL.

I am going went…

to kill some chickens for a guest post on a friend’s awesome blog.  Butchering is so a craft!

I am wondering…

how in the world my grandmother did any cooking when there were two year olds awake and running around.

I am reading…

Too many books at once.  Simplicity Parenting by Lisa Ross, A Charlotte Mason Companion by Karen Andreola, On Formally Undecidable Propositions of Principia Mathematica and Related Systems by Kurt Godel, and American Indian Food and Lore by Carolyn Niethammer are the ones I chip away at most often.

I am hoping…

for a good hospital experience this time around.  I have a really wonderful midwife this time.

I am looking forward to…

Christmas.

I am hearing…

rain on the window.

Around the house…

Attempting to consolidate all the crafty stuff in one big plastic chest of drawers to keep in the kitchen.  I’m getting weary of little people craft messes.

I am pondering…

how much I have changed from the woman I was before marriage and family.  Some days, it seems so full of grace… some days, it seems like I had to give up so much that I loved piece by piece and those days I’m not sure what even connects me to all of that time past.  It’s days like these when I wish I had a piano.  It’s really the only thing left of the old me that I can still pursue in my current role and I feel like if I could just play again that I’d find some little part of that younger, crazier me again.

One of my favorite things…

a (fairly) clean house.  It’s good to be back up to speed.

A few plans for the rest of the week:

-making ornaments with my daughter and her friends tomorrow

-finishing up the last few gifts

-reading with the kids.

Here is picture for thought I am sharing…

kids love to pluck chickens.

Aunt Tuddy: A Review

A couple summers ago, a friend was purging her home of extra stuff and she gifted me with several books. One of them was a children’s book: The Wonderful World of Aunt Tuddy, by Jeremy Gury.

The first time I read it, I fell in love with it.  It’s one of those rare children’s books that delights the parents as well as the child.  It has a place in our Advent reading because we love it that much!

You can’t help but adore Aunt Tuddy.  She’s an eccentric old lady in a big house with lots of cats.

Seven, to be exact.

She also really enjoys shopping at The Department Store, where most of the plot in this book takes place.

This is one of my favorite passages.  Imagine any store manager acting like this these days.

She also lives next door to her ex-fiance, Major Dexter… who likes to peek in on her and see what she’s up to.

The pivotal moment of the story is when the gift certificate machine goofs up.  Instead of her nephew sending her a gift certificate for $10, she receives one for $100,000!

This book was written in 1958, so that was A LOT of money.  Heck, that’s still a lot of money!!

Naturally, she decides to go on a wild shopping spree… for all of her family and friends.  She even buys her ex-fiance a motorcycle, since she knows he’d secretly love to have one.

The Department Store realizes their mistake, and this is where I REALLY fell in love with the book.  Check out what the Boss says while all his V.P.s are trying to get him to tell Aunt Tuddy the error:

“I’m sorry, but I’ll have no part-

In breaking poor Aunt Tuddy’s heart.

Tomorrow is another day-

Perhaps by then we’ll find a way.”

Turns out they didn’t have to worry… Aunt Tuddy discovers the mistake on her own. And she feels awful about telling everyone she spent money that wasn’t hers to spend.

But who comes to her rescue?  Major Dexter!  Her gift melted his grudge and he asks her to marry him… and he’s rich!

I can’t even do this book justice.  It was original, funny, and heartwarming.  If you’re lucky enough to come across a copy somewhere, grab it.  You won’t regret it.  The major themes are generosity and forgiveness.

{Pretty}

Usually we begin Advent with little changing before Thanksgiving other than an increased effort at fasting.  This year, I decided that it would make a whole lot more sense to the kids if we decorated for Advent on the first day of the fast.  One reason being, by the time you hit post-Thanksgiving week you have St. Nicholas and St. Barbara coming up and it always made me stressed out to fit all that celebrating in with the decorating.  I wasn’t modelling “Advent is a time of peace and reflection”… it was more like “we have five million things to do, so can’t you kids get out of my way for a couple days?”  The change worked so well, I’m definitely going to do it again next year.  It’s pretty in that half-of-these-ornaments-were-made-by-kids kind of way.

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For Sweet Pea’s second Christmas, I thought we should finally get ourselves some sort of nativity set.  We just happened to be walking by a vendor from Palestine who was selling handmade goods from Bethlehem to help the economy back home.  It struck me instantly that it would be awesome to have a nativity set made in Bethlehem by hand.  I mean, Joseph was a carpenter!  Every time I look at it, makes me happy.   And the kids love that you can wind up the little star and a music box inside plays Silent Night.

The kids are getting along much better.  Mishmish is finally able to control himself better and I know that helps Sweet Pea be more patient with him.  Mishmish spontaneously leaned his head on Sweet Pea’s shoulder in the store this evening.  Super cute.

{Funny}

In an effort to increase my sanity during this pregnancy, we removed almost all the toys.  And the kids barely miss any of them.  See them playing with the empty toy boxes?  I am seriously considering sending them off secretly to Goodwill and having them be gone forever.  It’s so much easier to train both of them to pick up what remains because the job is a lot smaller now.  I should have thought of this months ago!

{real}

Sweet Pea likes to give gifts, and she has a massive list of people she wants to give to.  I decided a good solution might be some of the $1.00 ornament crafts at Jo-ann’s fabric.  I completely ignored the recommended age for them and these three of the stained glass (plastic?) style actually were rated 8+.  But my kid is a super genius, so no problem right?  8+?  Ok, so maybe she does have the hand eye coordination of an almost five year old.  I ended up doing this for her with a pair of tweezers.  Did you ever play Operation when you were a kid?  Think of this craft as that in reverse, with the added bonus of the little beads jumping back out every time the tray got bumped.  I spent an entire hour making three ornaments.  I am very silly.

 
round button chicken

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